What is value? Is it the amount that something is worth? Is it the amount you pay for an item or service, or how much you save when you purchase it? It is something that is important to you? Something you stand for? Value has many meanings, and after spending hours philosophizing the true meaning of value, this is the conclusion I’ve reached. Please let me know your thoughts and share your comments on what the meaning of value is to you. We are all connected and we all learn from each other, so please sound off and feedback!
In 2004 I created a business based on the notion of value. The goal was to help people save time and money while reducing stress in daily life, by creating organizing routines based on individual strengths that are easy to create and maintain. To me, those were the most valuable services to provide, especially to clients in times of crisis, or who are undergoing transitions of life in some way or another, and who may either be physically limited or may be feeling too overwhelmed to know where to begin.
As the years have passed, my goals and actions have remained consistent, however my perception of value has changed. I still regard creating routines to save time and money while reducing stress as positive attributes, but my vision of the overall goal and finding the means to the end have shifted. What I know now that I did not know then is that my mother was right. Time goes too fast. We can’t plan for everything and there is no finish line. Every day is the gift and we need to live in the present, caring for ourselves first to create true longevity and vitality, health and inner peace. To achieve balance once and for all, is to live a life that can be enjoyed and appreciated every day starting today, not wishing and waiting for someday to begin.
Personally, the last few years have dealt hands of deeply painful losses and transitions of life for myself and my family. From the death of my best childhood friend and a second true soul mate friend, to the loss of my parents; a mother who I loved deeply and spoke to daily, followed by the death of a biological father I barely knew. Hell, even my dog and cat died. But, somehow through these unexplainably tough days, from this place of darkness came crystal clear moments of reflection. It is a weird feeling not to have parents anymore. They're gone at an age that is 20 years older than my current age. I question, is 20 more years what I have left? Regardless, what I know is that it's quality over quantity and that I had better get a handle on this shit and start making the most of this life that I have right now.
I believe that love, time, health and creating balance are our most valuable resources. When loved ones are gone, they are gone, and our time is so limited. You can’t gain back time spent. You can't buy back your health. You have one body, so you better start treating it right if you want it to last. It’s time to start living the DREAM, literally. So, what does this mean?
D is for Diet. Put fuel into your body, not garbage. Eat for energy, not for pleasure or to mask pain. Start by swearing off of fast food or cutting out soda. Your body will thank you, and it’s easier on your budget.
R is for Rest and Rejuvenation. You must rest to refuel your body. Good rest. REM sleep. If this is not happening for you, then check into ERMD therapy. Reprogram your processors. Get relief.
E is for Exercise. Objects in motion tend to stay in motion. If you claim that you do not have time to exercise, I challenge you to get rid of your TV. I don’t have one. It’s possible. You can get a ton of exercise without a television. For real. And you're not missing much. Trust me.
A is for Adjustment. Not one to preach or to push ideas onto others, you can take what you need and leave the rest, but for me proper adjustment consists of regular yoga and weekly chiropractic care. Once a week whether you need it or not…removing subluxations feels like being high, only better. It’s amazing… and somewhat expensive but worth every penny as it is an investment in your body’s future.
M is for Mental Attitude. When my biggest cheerleader was silenced (aka, when my mom went to heaven) I learned to dig deep. No one will ever love or believe in you as much as your mom, it’s true. But you must, must, must learn to love and believe in yourself. NO MORE NEGATIVE SELF TALK! In our house, you drop and do a push-up for every instance of negative self-talk that arises. People rely on the strong ones, the empathetic ones to help lift them up, so we must be lifted ourselves. Of course, there are dog shit days when I can’t stop crying in my cheerios, but afterwards, I stand up, dust off and get back to making myself and my loved ones proud. And take time to meditate. It may be “boring” at first, but it gets easier. And it’s really, really, really good for your soul. Really.
In conclusion my point is, lighten up a little bit. Instead of bitching about exercising, or about the shape or size of your body, or how about un-flexible you are, or about how overwhelming your craft room or bedroom or kitchen is, just show up. Show up and be thankful that your arms and legs work and that you can work on your body, on your space, on your goals and on your visions for the future. Appreciate that you can make dinner to feed your family, or that you can laugh, dance and make memories with your friends. Laugh when your mom tries her best to keep up with your text messages, facespace posts, pintergram snappy chats, or whatever way parents are supposed to communicate with kids these days… and just be. Just breathe. Show gratitude and seek guidance. Be present. Be mindful. Be kind. Be silly. Be fulfilled. Be the person you desire to be.
And don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It doesn't matter.